It’s hard not to feel like you may lose something when you find out a friend is expecting. It’s a loss of what was. A loss of what you had known in that friendship before and what you had become accustomed to. In my world this has happened many times. I imagine it’s similar to how a person might feel if they were very single, and are watching and hearing about their friends in various places get engaged.
A friendship isn’t really “lost” but what I mean is that it will never be exactly the same…it can’t. When a major life change occurs in anyone’s life it can change things. This friend is now answering to or for someone else. This is not bad, and I am not angry at anyone for having a child or anything like that. I just have a bittersweet feeling every time I hear news of change because it just means something different for that friendship.
Anyone out there who is dealing with the journey of infertility in their life I know can relate to my thoughts (or at least I hope so!). Sometimes you just feel sad, while others are feeling great joy. There is no other way to describe it and it in no way means I am not grateful for the life I am living currently.
I have a feeling many new friendships will come my way in the future. The old ones will remain with wonderful memories and new ones will be made with them and their little additions.